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Telling Your Children About Divorce

Sharing the Difficult News

Divorce is never easy to discuss with anyone, let alone children. If you are a parent who is going through a divorce, it's important that you take the time to talk to your kids about what is happening. They will likely have a lot of questions, and it's important that you provide them with honest answers. In this blog, we will discuss how to tell children about divorce in a way that is sensitive and compassionate. We will also provide some tips on how to help kids cope with this difficult situation.

Be Open and Honest

No matter the age of your children, it is important to be open and honest with them about the divorce. This does not mean that you need to give them all of the details, but you should explain to them what is happening and why. If possible, have this conversation with both parents present; this will help your children feel like they can ask questions and get support from both of you.

Be Sensitive to Their Feelings

Your children are likely to have a lot of different emotions when they find out about the divorce. They may be sad, scared, or angry. It is important to be sensitive to their feelings and let them know that it is okay to feel whatever they are feeling. Encourage your children to share what they are feeling and what they are thinking.

Reassure Them That They Are Not Responsible

It is common for children whose parents are getting a divorce to blame themselves for the divorce. They may believe that if they had just been better-behaved that the divorce would not have happened. It is imperative to reassure your children that they are not responsible for the divorce and that it was not their fault.

Explain What Will Change and What Will Stay the Same

After you have told your children about the divorce, it is important to explain what will change and what will stay the same. For example, they may need to switch schools or move to a new house. But, some things like holidays and family traditions can stay the same. Let them know that even though some things are changing, they can still count on you to be there for them.

Helping Your Children Adjust to the Divorce

Divorce can be difficult for everyone involved, but it is especially hard on children. They may feel like they have lost one of their parents or that their family is no longer whole. Here are some tips to help your children adjust to the divorce:

Encourage Them to Talk About Their Feelings

As we mentioned before, it is important to encourage your children to talk about their feelings. This will help them process what is happening and express how they are feeling.

Make Time for Them

With everything that is going on, it can be easy to forget about your child's needs. But it is important to make time for them and let them know that they are loved.

Divorce is never easy, but by having an open and honest conversation with your children, you can help make it a little bit easier for them. Just remember to be sensitive to their feelings and reassure them that they are not responsible for the divorce. And finally, explain what will change and what will stay the same. With your support, your children will be able to get through this tough time.

Speak with an Attorney

If you have questions about divorce or need help working through the process, be sure to get in touch with the attorneys at Law Office of Alexandra White, PC. Our team understands how difficult divorce can be for both our clients and their children; we are committed to helping our clients work through every step of the process so they can help their children work through divorce.


Learn more or schedule a consultation by calling (303) 647-4245 or by visiting our website.

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