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Surviving the Holiday Blues After a Divorce

The 2020 holiday season will look vastly different, and if you’ve recently been through a divorce, the thought of festivities can feel quite isolating or stressful.

Whether it is your first holiday season since your separation or fifth, getting through this time of year alone is difficult, especially if you share children. To help you navigate these times, we’re sharing advice that will make this season one you will begin looking forward to again.

1. Do Something Kind for Yourself

Use this time to reflect and focus on yourself. Self-care isn’t just a millennial buzzword thrown around to be selfish. Explore a new hobby or partake in your favorite activities, go on a hike, have a spa night, or host a get-together with your closest friends. And if you’re up for it, do something kind for others. The holidays are the perfect time to give back to the community, and you can do so by volunteering at the local animal shelter, soup kitchen, or other activities.

By taking care of yourself, you’re opening yourself up to growth and healing.

2. Focus on Your Kids

The holidays can be an incredibly difficult time for your children as well. Make the most of the time that you have with them even if you aren’t with them on Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, or another holiday you celebrate. Keep traditions alive or create new ones to fit with the new family dynamics. You can have a Thanksgiving dinner the week before or after— there aren’t any rules it has to be on a specific day. Arrange a Christmas cookie decorating contest for your kids.

Think about your child’s wishes and what will make them happiest this season.

3. Plan Ahead and Coordinate

Be sure to plan ahead and get on the same page with your co-parent regarding dates, schedules, and times. The last thing you want is them unexpectedly knocking on your door, dropping off the kids for the week, and vice versa. This should all be covered in your custody arrangement, but it can be easy to lose track of time with the hustle and bustle of the holidays. As you discuss your upcoming plans, consider coordinating gifts or other activities.

Law Office of Alexandra White, PC understands the challenges that come with divorce and the holiday season. Our attorneys are here to help your experience less stressful so that you can focus on yourself and your children.

To talk to an experienced Colorado family lawyer, contact us at (303) 647-4245 and schedule your free consultation.