Trying to remain civil with your ex during a divorce is an admirable pursuit. Many people do not have the emotional strength to remain friendly with their former spouse. Even in cases where people share children, it can take them many years to rebuild their relationship and move forward after a divorce.
While prioritizing a healthy relationship moving forward is a good idea, you should not do so at the expense of your own financial security. Some individuals experiencing divorce are so eager to avoid conflict that they make mistakes that will impact them for years to come.
Acquiescing to every demand by your ex is not the right approach to a divorce strategy. That mistake could have a significant impact on your financial future. You need to be prepared for the possibility that you will need to litigate the major issues in your divorce for a fair outcome.
Divorce isn't just an ending, but also a new beginning
There is no question that a divorce represents the end of a significant chapter in your life. Regardless of how long your marriage lasted, you likely entered into this union expecting it to last for the rest of your life. Filing for divorce means the end of that hope, but it also means the possibility of something new and positive.
However, in order to build a beautiful new home of self-reliance inside yourself, you need a strong foundation. Compromising with your ex can benefit you both. Divorce has a way of bringing out the worst in many people. Your ex, who may generally be a kind and decent person, may try to bully you into an unfair situation that benefits them far more than you.
The strong emotions of divorce can cloud your judgment and leave you vulnerable to poor decisions made in haste or out of a desire to avoid conflict. You really should not agree to anything without having someone emotionally neutral to the situation, such as a divorce attorney, review the terms of the agreement.
You may need to prepare for litigation if compromise isn't possible
When one spouse is pressing for unfair terms or a lopsided divorce agreement, it may become necessary to go to court. In Colorado, the courts will do everything in their power to ensure a fair outcome to both the asset division process and the child custody arrangements.
Unless there are complicating factors, such as a prenuptial agreement or spousal abuse, spouses will likely share parental responsibilities, as well as assets acquired during the marriage. Prepare yourself for the possibility that going to court to assert your rights is the best option in your divorce. You can attempt to compromise, but not if it will benefit your spouse more than you.